Information is emerging about the whereabouts of the civilian dead of Mariupol. The total number is perhaps 20,000, perhaps 50,000, but some bodies are impossible to identify, or even to find.

Let us not forget that that Putin intentionally prevented evacuating the civilians from Mariupol to safety in Ukraine until the Putin forces were in a position to forcibly take thousands to Russia.

I understand the worry of not knowing whether someone you love is alive or dead. I am perplexed by the idea that your late husband might be "a missing person" if you saw him dead before you fled.