A famous rapper created a scandal by announcing that he has someone verify each year that his daughter still has a hymen.

In addition to the criticisms in the article, his approach to the issue foolishly equates having sex with vaginal penetration.

However, the deepest error is to normalize the foolish wish for your lover (whatever per gender) to have had no experience with sex — to be ignorant about how to please others, and about how others can please per. We all start out ignorant, of this as well as everything else, but there is nothing good about being ignorant.