Boys and men today face a difficult situation — the flip side of the difficult situation that girls and women face. Men can no longer win respect by being the "bread winner" for a wife, not only because that role is no longer respected, but because most jobs don't pay enough to enable a worker to support anyone else.

It is hard for me to empathize with people who want to be the "bread winner", since I was repelled by that idea of the male role ever since I learned about it. I yearned for a relationship of love, not for one of being valued only for bringing in money.

But this problem is real enough for those in it, and the US right wing has taken advantage of this to recruit fanatics.