Great as it is to use the internet to expose rapists, public shaming can become mob rule if it is used to deal with small annoyance that are not so clear cut.

If you decide not to rape people, it isn't very hard to recognize what you should avoid doing.

I've seen articles posted which say that men that show attraction to a women in a way the woman finds uncomfortable are culpable and deserve to be condemned. In effect, they treat a man as vicious if he does not have perfect judgment.

Asking a woman out too many times is one of the things that men can easily do because they are not mind-readers. I must have done it quite a few times.

I always believed that "no" meant "no." But many women wouldn't say "no" — instead they said things like, "Sorry, I have other plans for that evening". Believing them, I asked again for a different day. Each time, they were busy.

Eventually someone told me that the women who said this might mean they didn't want to go out with me. But even knowing that that message was sometimes a code, I could not determine in any given case whether it was a code or not. I agonized over that question with various women. The problem ended when I recognized that my asking for a date had never turned out well, so I stopped.

If some man is not entirely hopeless at dating, that doesn't mean he understands what to do. Most men are not powerful, nor polished. Many are flailing around in trial and error. Inevitably they hurt others' feelings as well as their own.

Instead of looking to jump down their throat when they get it wrong, calling them misogynists or abusers, how about helping them understand a good way to approach women? A way that won't offend, but also gives a hope of reciprocated interest?